Ignorant Questions NEVER to Ask Foreign Women

There are good and bad questions. Then there are those that are just plain ignorant.

As an international matchmaker, my job includes introducing single foreign men and women to one another. I pair them, set up dates, and help them in their interactions.

One of the most painful parts of the job is witnessing awkward conversations between my clients. More often than not, it’s the guy who makes blunders by asking impolite questions, which leaves their foreign date questioning whether they are joking or are simply oblivious.

To help you avoid awkward conversations with foreign women, here are a few questions you should avoid asking your foreign date:

Where are you really from?

Before anything else, it’s normal to ask about someone’s ethnicity. As humans, it’s inherent for us to specify and group people based on their race, identity, and other factors.

It may sound like an innocent question at first, but it can sometimes lead to microaggression. Often, the person who asks this question usually forces their idea of what someone’s ethnicity should be. At first, they will ask, “Where are you from?” Then, if someone’s answer is different from their guess, they will ask this question with more emphasis on the word “really.”

Don’t you speak English?

Asking if someone speaks your language is not actually offensive. However, it can come off as rude depending on the way it is phrased and delivered.

Here’s a piece of advice: Say, “Do you speak English?” instead of, “Don’t you speak English?” To add, say it with curiosity, not with the intent to mock. Most foreign women can tell whether you’re trying to shame them for not speaking your language.

Remember that your goal is to meet and marry someone from a foreign country. This means that you should accept her as she is, even if she’s not fluent in English. Nevertheless, language can be learned. She might not be able to speak English now, but with a few classes, you’ll be able to communicate with each other fluently.

Do you have Wi-Fi in your country?

Do you live in a hut made out of palm trees?

Are you guys still hunting for food?

What kind of money do you use?

These are some ignorant questions that foreign women who come from third-world countries usually hear from American men.

I understand that your intent is to simply ask about her country’s situation. However, these questions are used as harmful stereotypes in different forms of media that have become a running joke up to this day. Due to this, most people believe that they are uncivilized when in reality, third-world countries are as civilized as they are.

Ask Non-Offensive Questions

One thing to keep in mind when talking to foreign women: Avoid offensive questions. Instead, ask questions that highlight the things that she values in life. Stay away from topics such as religion, politics, and spiritual beliefs. Remember, the goal is to get to know her, not to make her furious over matters that you should have known about.