5 Most Common Marital Problems

All married couples face different problems. And these problems are things they promised to brave together — for better or for worse, on their wedding day. However, some of these problems are proven more prevalent than others.

Some couples make it through these challenges. But some, unfortunately, allow these challenges to wreak havoc on their marriage, effectively ending it.

According to studies, here are some of the common issues most married couples fight about:

Money

Money is, indeed, the root of all evils since it also causes most marriages to crumble. It’s almost always in the top 5 reasons for divorce.

With bills to pay, fridges to fill, kids’ education to fund, and wants to satisfy, the insufficiency or mismanagement of money is a huge cause of stress. A husband can also have very different spending and saving habits from his wife, making these things a hot topic for arguments.

If they don’t want to end up arguing about money every day, they needed to clearly define their financial stands and goals. Or, simply, where their money should go.

Parenting styles

For spouses who have different upbringings and hold strong beliefs on parenting, it will be difficult for them to agree on which parenting approach they should follow for their kids.

One may be a strict disciplinarian who wants to be involved in every step and phase of their kid’s childhood, and even after. Meanwhile, the other spouse values independence and gives their children freedom once they turn 18.

Unless they agree to compromise and follow what they both agree is best for their children, a lot of blaming and parenting mistakes may arise.

Chores

Gone are the days when household chores were strictly for women. Women now also have careers, so household chores have become a couple’s shared responsibility.

Hence, if one of them fails to do their share of chores, it’s most likely a recipe for disaster. Nothing irritates a stressed person more than a pile of dirty dishes, a trash bag not taken out, or dirty socks that failed to make it to the laundry basket.

Chores must be properly divided and both of them must ensure they do their part so as to maintain harmony while living together.

Intimacy

Intimacy does not only mean having a physical and sexual connection. It also means emotional bonding, which most married couples have taken for granted.

When you have children to raise and a career to take care of, showing appreciation and bonding with your partner can be easily pushed back. At night, you’d rather go straight to bed and sleep rather than cuddle and intimately talk to each other about your day.

This leads to feelings of inadequacy and withdrawal from connecting with their partner. To keep the flame and excitement alive, the couple must set aside time for date nights despite their responsibilities as parents and busy schedules.

Disrespectful in-laws

Parents who keep meddling in their married children’s lives are another source of stress and conflict between couples. Unfortunately, some in-laws just don’t recognize nor respect boundaries.

And some men and women find it hard to tell their parents that their meddling isn’t doing any good. In turn, they engage in heated arguments with their partners who want their in-laws out of their lives.

Marriage sure does require a lot of work. Problems inevitably come, but they will all eventually go. They can be resolved as long as the couple maintains faith in each other and holds to their promise of lifetime commitment.